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I never thought about the considerable decline in men working in health care and education. “I didn't know that men could be doctors,” Throughout my life, every single one of my doctors has been a female doctor. As a matter of fact, I have never had a male doctor, so I never gave it much thought. “In early education, men are virtually invisible. It ought to be a source of national shame that only 3% of pre-K and kindergarten teachers are men.” The only male teacher I had was in 9th grade and he was the only one out of all my teachers to be male. In the U.S. military, there are more women piloting planes than there are male kindergarten teachers. In the 1980s 33% were male teachers and this went down to 24%. Generally speaking, females are more nurturing than males based on the serotype of being a woman. It has always seemed to me that this makes sense, however, I realized that men used to dominate both fields in the past.

Victor Watson

In this article by Richard V. Reeves, he discusses why men need to be recruited in positions that mainly are viewed as female jobs such as teachers, nurses and care workers. Women earn 20% less than men and men are less likely to take jobs that are seen as “women's work”. There are stereotypes which people view men differently if they perform so-called female job. The other side could be argued as females that could enter the workforce in male dominated jobs. As a child I do not remember any male nurses or even in my pediatrician office there were 3 female doctors and 1 male doctor. In elementary school there were no male teachers except the gym teacher. One of my career choices that I am investigating is being an X-ray technician. This is looked at as a female job. I feel whether male or female it still takes the same amount of time and brain power to be successful. In this example the strength of a male could be an advantage when it comes to lifting or helping moving patients. This in my eyes is not feminine. Teachers have the same classification as when you think of a teacher, you think of a female. It still takes the same amount of time and brain power to be successful as a male teacher. Sometimes students relate better to men than women or vice versa. If a child comes to school fatherless or needs a male image in this case he/she would most likely prefer a male over a female. At the very least it should be an option.


After reading this essay, I never took into consideration how much women are taking over the jobs of men but the men aren't doing the same. As I look back on my childhood years, I tend to realize that I hardly encountered any males in the fields that were stereotypically dominated by women, such as education. Although, I do strongly believe that men should be in the world of these so call "women-dominated jobs" because even though I didn't encounter many male teachers growing up, one of my favorite teachers was in fact a male. He was my second-grade teacher, and the first male teacher I had encountered, he will always be my favorite teacher because he brought new ideas to education that no other female teacher at the time had exposed us students to. By having males go into these women-dominated fields, it opens a new perspective to what the men have to offer and it can often better the field and grow it as a whole. Overall I do agree with the concept, that more males should be obtaining jobs such as teachers and nurses because it not only helps eliminate the barrier between what men and women can do as their job occupation but also brings new and fresh ideas to these jobs that have dominated by the same people for years.

L.M. Fusco

In a hyper-feminist world, Reeves article that recommends the inclusion of men is refreshing, and a great start to allow men to be part of the solution in our communities. I couldn’t agree more with Reeves. He touches on a controversial topic about men being nurturers in a world that historically would deem that behavior as weak. The mental health community needs caring professionals who will commit themselves to the healing of their communities. Men are healers! Just as woman can be. I have worked with many men in the mental health field, and they are discouraged from expressing their emotions. It is no wonder that they are also absent from positions where they could be demonized for having an interest in what is now called “a woman’s field”. Men as just as capable to undertake a position in the mental health community as a women, or non-binary person. This idea that men are not good enough could be viewed as a damaging, and fanatical aspect of society that excludes men from mattering. Reeves’ is a shining voice for the community at large to consider, and re-consider the perspective, and narratives that men are not good enough. That idea is just as damaging as when that narrative was pushed during the Women’s Suffrage movement. It holds no substance, and frankly is also outdated. Society benefits when we encourage, and include others in the areas of our communities that deserve the intelligence, logic, and understanding men are capable of providing, especially in the mental health world where care is needed now more than ever. We still have yet to see the effects of the COVID-19 pandemic. As those effects continue to reveal themselves, we need people on the frontlines alongside female mental health providers. We cannot do this all on our own.

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