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Anissa Watts

So the Riverwalk drink was so good! However my experience. So the drink is made with Coconut Ciroc and I'm allergic to any kind of nut. I asked for a substitute. Ciroc apple or any kind without nuts. I'm drinking my drink and it's so good! I'm totally satisfied. Then all of sudden my throat and tongue is itching. So my waitress is so wack! I tell her what's going on with me and my allergies again..... She tries to assure me that noting was put in my drink in regards to any nuts. I'm staying there itching and she could care less. She walked away to take care of someone else. I asked another waitress for the office manager. And she was very kind to me. However some Ghetto hood rat come out rolling her eyes and proceeds to tell me the office manager is in a meeting Pamela is her name at 10:30, 11:00 at night and she could not speak to me. And as nasty as she was she had the nerve to ask me what she could do for me, all the while rolling her eyes and being very unprofessional. I politely stated no. My waitress walked pass my table twice without saying a word and ignoring myself and my friend and I was just so ready to get out of there at this point. I ordered a Cobb salad. It was very good however I couldn't enjoy it until I reached home once my throat and tongue stopped itching. I can say I love Starters which is right next door. I have never left there unhappy and I will never return to They Say again. It may not mean much to They Say clearly Pamela the office manager had no time for me and my allergies. I love Starters Bar and Grill and I hate that I even went to They Say Tonight. I left after a long day at work very unsatisfied very!!!

Elmira A.

There are several issues regarding online posts of children. First, some parents get too obsessed with their kids, for instance, they upload photos of their children on Instagram many times in a day. I personally have a couple of friends who constantly post pictures of their babies to the point when my feed becomes a flow of baby photos. I'm not saying I don't like seeing their babies, but a new photo every two hours is a bit too much.
Second, it is indeed a violation of children's privacy. This issue is serious and often is neglected. Many parents don't realize that children are foremost individuals, they are people, they have feelings, and, as they grow up, they develop opinions. Most adults have photos of themselves that they don't like for many reasons and those usually get deleted. So why is it ok for parents to post a silly picture of their kids without their permission or despite of it?
Third, and in my opinion the most important issue, is disclosing information about children: their activities, hobbies, and location. Potentially this makes children vulnerable to predators. There are lots of creepy people online and nobody knows what they are up to. So essentially parents are giving away a pretty intimate information about their kids without resistance.
Lorenz doesn't express her own opinion in that regard. I am wondering if she agrees that children's feelings should be in consideration, and whether she has kids and posts online about them.
Now, everyone is free to make posts about pretty much anything but I strongly agree that, when it comes to kids, parents should stop and think if it is really necessary to reveal information about their children or at least inform them and ask permission.

Danielle Benton

When children, including myself, realize there’s vast information that is available to us on the internet, many out of boredom, look up their names. Similar to the children in the essay, I too had a similar response. At first, I was ecstatic over the fact that I felt like a “celebrity” and there were pictures of me with my name tagged along with it; however, as time went by I soon become uncomfortable with the presence I had on the internet. I always had a love for pictures, but a majority of my pictures stem from my mother’s Facebook who tends to post to her heart’s desire. And I resonated with what one of the children said, “No matter what you do, it’s out there for people to know,” (Lorenz). Although I am now an adult, my mother still sees me as her precious firstborn child and posts numerous pictures of me without my knowledge or consent. She tags me in these posts and not only do my friends see these pictures, but a majority of teachers whom I have gotten close to after graduating college. I feel that kids shouldn’t be put out there for everyone to know everything about. I feel that until they are old enough to understand what is going on and what the internet is, nothing about them should be made public for their safety.

Kolapo Ojebuoboh

This article depicts the usage of parents infringing on their children’s early personal life by the use of social media, Social media is used by everyone, children included in said posts of their youth didn’t have a say in whether they wanted their photos to be posted on the internet for everyone to see, children have privacy rights as well, now some children are happy about it while some wish they could take it down, never to be seen by the public as a means to protect their reputation or just want to keep their private life a secret, but some excited or happy parents ignore that wish in the spur of the moment when they get excited about an accomplishment in the young child’s life so they do what any proud parent does, they record it and post it to social media as a means to put their child into the limelight. In my own opinion i understand both sides of the spectrum, i may not be a parent but i was a older sibling and whenever my younger did something my mom, dad and i were ecstatic and usually would record the memory so it stays like that a memory not to be forgotten.But i also understand the children's point of not wanting to be put display like a trophy or piece of art as that strips away the means of being a human being.

Ausin Evjen

Kids do not respond the same way, and when they see they're first picture online, their attitude could range in a wide variety of ways. I've been on social media most of my life, and it never seemed as foreign to me, and most of my class probably feels the same way. Though with that, keeping track of photos that are up on the internet can't be taken down permanently, and I could see how someone would not be happy with their online appearance. It's all situational and depends on the pictures posted.

Tyrell Minor

1. Most of the kids reacted negatively when learning about their online presence, but a few of them felt proud and excited to learn about their online presence. Lorenz was right to leave her personal opinion out of the essay, as the article is about children, and she would have had no place putting in her opinion, unless she also included a related personal experience of hers.

2. I feel incredibly relieved that looking myself up online has yielded no results, as I do not want anyone I don't trust to know anything about me. I am surprised that the google search held no results, as I did have a YouTube channel as a child, and I know my father occasionally makes posts about me on Facebook.

3. I recommend changing said to either stated, declared, proclaimed, continued, or recounted for the phrases "'No matter what you do, it’s out there for people to know,' she said", "Ellen said that while she didn’t find anything too sensitive or personal", "'My parents have always posted about me,' she said.", "he said. Ever since, he has Googled himself every few months, hoping to find things.", and "'...I want to be a person who is a person. I want people to know who I am,' she said." in order to decrease the repetition and monotony of the verb "said".

4. I believe that there is no definitive age at which a child can exercise consent over pictures, it depends on their maturity and understanding of the situation. But if a child tells someone they don't want that picture posted, the child's wishes should be respected and followed. The disclosure of personal information should be a discussion between a child and their parent, as well as the creation of a social media account for the child to use.

Daminica Wells

In the article “When Kids Realize Their Whole Life Is Already Online” Taylor Lorenz explains that many kids today are growing up in the age of social media. From the time they are born their parents have been posting pictures and private information about them online without their consent. Many of the kids had negative responses and retaliate by making their own social media accounts to reclaim their image and life. While others have had positive response saying things like they are glad to be a real human being and want everyone to know that they exist. I personally agree with the kids who have had negative responses to their parents posting their lives online without consent. I don’t want my parent’s friends all in my personal life.

1)Depending on the kid will determine their reaction some will have a positive response while others will have a negative response. Lorenz’s choice not to put in her own argument helps shows both sides of the argument without her biased opinion persuading us.

2)I personally don’t have a significant online presence. My mom only posts stuff about me on her private social media accounts so when I google myself nothing pops up. My opinion hasn’t really changed since I have gained a social media account I still have an indifferent opinion but I lean more towards the negative side of the spectrum.

3)Instead of using the verb said to introduce a statement Lorenz can us verbs like explained, expressed, disclosed, claimed, and stated. The verb explained fits in the place of said in the sentence . “I’ve wanted to bring it up… she said” without ruining the overall flow. The use of different verbs will add variety to the text making less repetitive and monotonous.

4)It is ok for a parent to post about their child at a young age. Even though the child wont doesn’t understand yet it is a way for the parent to document a significant journey, but when the child wants to take control of their presence the parent should step down and allow. I think children should be able to give consent or veto posts about themselves around age 12. At this age they are preteens and being introduced to social media and the presence they could or could not have. Disclosing information about name and place residence is extremely unsafe. When children start building their presence they should never disclose personal information like addresses. When they reach about age 14-15 they should have control over their own accounts. They can choose how they want to be seen and have the privacy and independence they want before becoming a legal adult.


While in high school and college I played sports so I had information, stats, and some pictures online. As an athlete, this made me excited as it was a form a recognition. Now as an adult that excitement and awe has transitioned to a more controlled demeanor. Not all children respond the same way to finding their information and pictures online. Some children are timid than others and don't feel comfortable with their pictures online. I think Lorenz didn't share her opinion to be objective while doing her interviews.

In my opinion a child shouldn't be posting information or content about themselves until high school. Yes, as a teenager we've made plenty of mistakes but we have also developed more mentally. In the time that we live in today, our children's safety and innocence should be our upmost concern. I have personally witness a friends daughter, who is 10 years old, be direct messaged from a grown man asking to have a private conservation.

At some point you have to trust that you raised your child properly. I do feel that a high schooler should be allowed to control their social media accounts.

Katie Malyy

It was very interesting for me to read this topic. Each question has its pros and cons. For me personally, I grew up when my parents did not have social networks. However, after a while, Viber and other social networks appeared where my parents can share family photos. It was very painful and not pleasant for me, it was even a shame when my mother exposed or sent someone photographs in which I joked or danced jokingly or even just didn’t get out very well. As a child, I did not really think about this. I began to realize this completely at the age of 16 years and older.


Children now live in a much different world then their parents did and almost everything involves social media. If it were me, I would not like having pictures and/or other things on the internet that I wasn't aware of. Many kids worry that things they post or things that are posted on the internet about them could hurt them in the future. This is something that our parents never had to deal with and is just now becoming something that can eventually impact a person and their future.

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