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In recent discussions of technology, a controversial issue has been weather technology is taking over our lives, expecally in the aspect of human communication. On the one hand, some argue that we need technology to advance our lives. From this perspective it makes technology seem as a helpful tool, however, others argue that technology is taking over and killing face to face conversation. According to Sherry Turkle who wrote three books on the topic of technology and human conversation, “in order to feel more, and to feel more like ourselves, we connect. But in our rush to connect, we flee solitude.” Stating that we use technology to connect with those around us online, yet by only connecting online we are completing this activity alone. My own view is one that fallows Sherry Turkle who agrees that technology is stopping people from having normal human conversations that we are wired to have, and how we need to put down the phone and interact with the world around us.

Lou Grazziano

I Enjoyed this article, and it is very clear where we are all heading with technology at our finger tips. I see it every day on the Buses, The Trains, and people walking across the street with their faces to the cell phones. Sherry Turkle is like most people that you will interact with today. I feel Sherry is connected to technology as most of us are too. I often use emails on a daily bases and also keep conversations with my co-workers through out the day.


This article is a very interesting conversation, the reason being is because we live in an era in which everyone uses technology to escape from their ordinary life. Although most will argue that technology is extremely helpful, others will argue the negative impact technology has amongst society specially cell phone users. When people are to stuck on their phone and are walking or even sitting on the metro people tend to space out and forget about the world around them because they focus so much time on a screen that they feel that the rest of the world does not matter. I must admit that technology is a great tool for society but it should be very limited, making technology only useful for those that are only using it to do research like Sherry. We are responsible of our actions and technology should not be an excuse for any negative impact on society.

Dan Cook

I found this to be interesting and on point with the impact technology is having on genuine face to face conversations. In our home, eating dinner at the table with the entire family, no distractions of television or phone was our time to connect. This allowed everyone to give their undivided attention, ask how everyone’s day and simple catch up and enjoy time together. It amazes me when we go out to functions or to eat the number of people sitting at a table together but are more engaged with what is going on else on the phone than the people they are with. While I work in technology, I’m not drawn into this social media / texting way of life. I actual enjoy having live conversations with humans.

Simone Daugherty

I think that this interview was very interesting and on point. I also feel that there is a time to use your phone and there is also a time to lay it down. When Tim Adams said to Mrs. Turkle, "I guess we are also wired for distraction, she responded that her recipe didn't involve giving up her phone because it's too useful. It means not using it on occasions like this when I am trying to give you my full attention. This is what I think she meant when she said that she wasn't anti-technology, she was pro-conversation. People need to talk more and use their phones less. Being out of school for so many years, I have struggled some in a couple of my classes. For me it would be so much easier if I could sit down face to face with a couple of my instructors. Sending an e-mail is ok, but I don't feel like I am getting the answers that I am looking for. At least not from one of my instructors. I just think that being face to face with them would give me a better understanding. Turkle's interview really didn't encourage me to want to do this, because the thought was already there.

Kristen Buckan

I think what Sherry Turkle's point is that you need to know when to use your phone. Technology is a good invention, but too much is not a good thing. She said that she leaves her phone in another room so she does not look at it during the night. She said that if she had it in her room, then she would get urges to check it. By leaving her phone in another room, she gets a mind set of I do not need it. She tries to limit her phone use to when she really needs it. She talked about how times have changed with technology evolving. I think her main point was when to know when enough is enough when it comes to technology.

Heba Aljumaily

She saying that technology is not the issue but people are. The way people allow technology to control their lives and make them lose the ability to go back to “normal” routines like having a face-to-face conversation. Technology was created for a reason but people need to find a balance between real life and technology to live their lives. It’s okay to use technology but not when you use it for an excessive amount for no valid reason. So when she says “I am not anti-technology, I am pro-conversation,” she’s simply saying that people need to have a balance between their lives and the reasons they use technology. She says it herself that she could never give up technology but has come up with rules for herself and her family of when to not use technology to create memories for herself and her family.

Turkle mentions that students email her rather than having a face-to-face conversation because they want so-called perfect questions and answers. I personally do the same thing because I can gather all my thoughts over a period of time before I send off my email to get a response back. If I had to talk to someone in person, I won’t mind it will just be hard in my life to plan a face-to-face meeting with someone. I would still gather my thoughts before the meeting so that I am prepared but it’s not accessible for me to have that connection with someone. I can send an email anytime I want, it will take time and planning to have a meeting.

Sarah Ford

I feel that Turkle means by her statement, “I am not anti-technology, I am pro-conversation” is that she does not dislike technology such as her phone or computer, but she does not like the communication gap between people when it comes to face-to-face discussions or telephone conversations. She feels people are avoiding conversations over the phone and substituting text messaging, emails, and instant messaging instead. The passage that stinks out most to me is, "My recipe does not involve my giving up my phone. It’s too useful. But it means not using it on occasions like this when I am trying to give you my full attention." She feels some people are tired of hearing her views on texting less and talking more. But she describes the way the food industry has changed and evolved and we are capable of putting our phones down and engaging more.

Magen L Spencer

Sherry Turkle believes we are missing out by not giving our full attention, and not receiving someone's full attention in return, in the age of social media. She believes we are actually hiding behind our screens. When she requests interviews, she receives replies back requesting the questions via email. I believe she makes a valid point. Instead of adding to our lives, in some ways the modern convenience of constant connection is subtracting something in equal measure. We have an ironic ability to be always present in the lives of our family and friends, without ever actually being present. When was the last time you had a lengthy chat with a friend, uninterrupted by your phone or computer, or at the very least, thoughts of your phone or computer intruding on that conversation?

Samuel S. Collington

I agree with Mrs. Turkle that our phones play a part in the decrease of socialization. Rather than enjoying moments, we are taking pictures that we will show others and they will probably not want to see the pictures! Many of my friends and I pull out our phones at lunch and we do not speak then but we end up texting each other later on. We should definitely do more to resist the urge to pull out our phones when we are not in the house.

Brian Barker

I agree that there has been a decrease in socialization due to the use of modern technology. We are no longer giving our full attention to the people who are right in front of us. Instead of knocking on the front door, people will just text and say that they are outside. Moments that were at one point significant in one's life, like a boy knocking on their girlfriend's door for the first time and meeting her dad are avoided. Too much is taken for granted as a result. Dates with a girlfriends, hangouts with friends, and intimate moments with family are all missed out on because people spend too much time on their phones. It is time we paid more attention to the people closest to us.

Connor Adams

I agree that modern technology has led to less real life interaction among people. Most specifically, the part of the article about how kids plan to raise their children in a "house of conversation", made me realize just how separated technology has made my own household. At any given time, all members of my family could be sitting in the same room; staring at our phones, lap tops, or television. While we are together, there are still no words being exchanged. This is a strange scene when one really thinks about it, especially in comparison to how things used to be. With this in mind, I hope one day to also bring my children up in a "house of conversation".

Emily Jamison

1. Shelly Turkle means that technology is huge in today's society and has helped us as humans achieve many things, but that we should replace face to face interaction with text messaging and emails. It is still important to put the phone down and talk to people with your mouth instead of the keys on your phone or computer.
2. The interview format was more appealing to me. It can even be used as evidence of the topic of conversation being important. Instead of emailing her answers, Turkle takes the time to meet with Adams doing the interview, which shows how important this topic is to Turkle, by which making her point even more valid.
3. I personally enjoy meeting with professor's one on one. Getting to know the face your talking to and learning all this new information from makes it more personal. It also helps create connections by showing you are proactive with your learning. Turkle's interview definitely makes me want to meet with my professors in person. With my classes being online, I believe I could get better feedback if my professors new me as a person and not a face behind a screen.

Samiha Shaheed

Sherry Turkle, is the author of many books on the need for real conversation, and she believes that although the phone is useful, we need to learn how to use it so that it does not infringe on our ability to connect with people in real life, a sentiment I firmly agree with. In the article “Sherry Turkle: ‘I am Not Anti-Technology, I am Pro-Conversation,” Turkle is interviewed by Guardian writer Tim Adams. In it, they both have a conversation about the rise of technology and the downfall of personal connections. Unlike proponents of the Anti-Technology movement, Sherry Turkle does not believe that one needs to give up their phone completely. To her, using the phone is not an addiction. It can be, but it should not be treated as such. In order to solve an addiction, one needs to give up that habit or substance completely. However, Turkle is not telling people to give up their phones, because she recognizes its value and benefit to society. Instead, she urges people to take a step back and control their phone usage. She tells us not to use the phone during interactions with other people, because it detracts from the conversation and leads to shallow relationships. In order to have the best of both worlds, by using the phone and having meanginful conversations with people in real life, Turkle suggests establishing “sacred spaces,” such as the kitchen or the car, where using the phone is not allowed. I do not completely agree with this idea because I understand that there are situations in which using the phone is necessary, and being on the phone is not inherently a bad thing in those areas. However, I agree with the idea behind sacred spaces. Because those are the areas in which family usually gathers and talks, using our phones in those areas might detract and distract from conversations. I believe that instead of establishing hard fast sacred spaces, it is more beneficial to instill in the family the importance of conversation so that everyone understands from themselves when it is okay to use the phone and when it is better not to use the phone. In conclusion, although I may not completely agree with Turkle’s execution of her values, I still agree with her core idea that using phones often distracts us from the real conversations and interactions we have with people around us and it is imperative that we pay attention reality so that we can establish deeper relationships and live our lives to the fullest.


Sherry Turkle's view on being "pro-conversation" not 'anti-technology" is that she thinks people rely on technology for human interaction too much. She doesn't think we should get rid of technology but she's interested in the effects it has on our relationships. She mentions how people want to have conversations with her over email rather than in person because they want to come up with "perfect" answers to her "perfect" questions. Turkle seems encouraged by the fact that younger generations seems to want their parents to be less involved with their tech devises and have more conversations.

Diamond Mitchell

In the article "I am Not Anti-Technology, I am Pro-Conversation" by Sherry Turkle's, she believes we should spend more time communicating with one another verbally and not just by texting. She thinks that many people look forward to communicating by texting/emailing rather than actual interactions, such as sit down conversations or maybe even a phone conversation. I agree with her because Im starting to realize that this generation is starting to lose ways on how to communicate face to face, they rather explain how they feel through a text instead of to you personally. Texting is taking over our lives and we're so sucked into technology we can't even see that it is.

Sabrina Villa-Nava

When Turkle stated "I am not anti-technology, I am pro-conversation" she meant that there is a time and place to be on your phone and to interact outside the virtual world. One cannot be stuck to technology and forget about everything else going on around them. An individual has to be interactive in the community, and communicate with the people around them.

Natalia Forcht

Sherry Turkle Stated " I am not Anti-technology, I am pro-converasation" by saying this I believe she meant that there are certain times where technology is appropriate to be used and at the dinner table or in the car is not a place she prefers in her life. She wants to help others understand that the world does not revolve around technology but with human interaction. She doesn't want technology to dissipate all together but she wants to see what affects it has on human interaction.

Jacob Snyder

I think Turkle made some very good points about how technology is taking away our face to face conversations. It seems like more people are worried about whats going on on line that they are with whats going on with a person sitting right across from them. Turkle had some good ideas about where not to use the phone or tablet, like at the dinner table and in the car. I feel that those are great places to not have phones. I think it would increase conversation as well as family moments and memories.

Maria Brown

I agree that most people today do not know how to have face-to-face conversations. People are spending so much time on their devices, that they are losing their social skills. I also agree that texting and social media takes away our ability to personally connect with others. Technology isn't necessarily a bad thing, but we do have to make sure we're not using it excessively. I agree that phones shouldn't be used at the dinner table, or spending time with family. I also think that people text more because they don't have to face the discomfort of communicating to someone in person.

Michael Russo

As being one myself, I think I speak for most millennials when I say that using your phone is a trick to get out of so many situations. If you see someone walking down the hall that you don't want to make eye contact with, all you have to do is pull out your cell phone and look at it until they are gone. If you are in a conversation with someone you don't know too well and there is an awkward moment of silence, you probably would find both of you going on your phones so you no longer have to interact with one another. Technology has given people an excuse to not have to socialize and I think it is ruining society. Even when I was young it was so much easier to make friends and talk to people, because we had no choice which is sometimes a good thing. Now children don't feel the need to interact because they can just talk to people over the phone or Xbox Live.


I agree that technology is preventing us from having face to face conversations because my personal experiences confirm it. In this article, Tim mentions that now children don't always get the experience of sitting at the dinner table and just talking to friends and family. I have seen this happen right before my eyes. On occasion I will babysit for a family friend; and when it comes time for dinner the kids just take their ipads to the table or even take their food into the living room to watch T.V. while they eat. They aren't conversing on a daily basis a the dinner table as a family like I had as a child and they really should; it brings you closer to others and teaches you social skills from a young age, but now that technology has evolved so much, it is taking away from the interaction we can have with others.

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