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Lisa Chaves

I find poking in Facebook really cute. In fact, when someone pokes me, it just tickles me and I couldn't help but smile. But I think FB or social media participation is beyond poking.

Andres Escalera

I agree with Chen’s argument that the internet is nothing like what it used to be 10 years ago. With websites like Facebook creating social graphs to keep their users linked to friends who enjoy the same hobbies or likes, users do not get to meet new people out of their circle that enjoy the same thing. We have no way of establishing new friendships with other people that are like us. This is a problem, in my opinion, that will make us be very antisocial. We have established this fear that everyone out there in the internet are fake catfish identities that just chat to strangers to feed their sick mind. People believe that no one in the online world is sane anymore. Chen and I both agree that this is to be wrong. If we get off social sites that promote antisocial behaviors like Facebook, and move toward sites that revolve on user submitted content and analysis like Reddit, then will we enjoy the company of new strangers. These people, who in the long term may become your new best friend, are online already, it is just in our fingertips where we make the decision to dig in other social sites that promote searching for new and interesting people. On a different note, Chen brings up this online Utopia where we all get along and jobs would be plentiful with the amount of work needed to take care of the internet. These ideas that came from J. C. R. Licklider have had on impact on Chen’s perception to how the internet should work. Chen talks about Licklider for an extensive amount of his article. He believes that there will always be people trying to troll others online, but what is the point of going online if you are going to confine your thoughts to a small group of people who have known you from institutions made to keep you off the street. If you want a choice as to whom you want to hear your voice, do not let the choice be made by those you met in school. That essentially was not a choice you got make, but instead a choice on how the institution would best fit them. Make the choice for yourself and exploit yourself online.

Daisy Garcia

agree with the essay, “Don’t Be a Stranger,” by Adrian Chen, I believe that the internet has not changed very much since 2006. The internet is a place where people can meet friends, chat with old friends, share their life, and even talk to other strangers. Throughout all the social networking sites in the world people build relationships with these strangers. Sometimes, these relationships do actually last, but most of the time, the relationships build through these networking sites do not end up as we expected them to. The show, Catfish, proves this because most of the time we see people pretend to be someone who they are not and act as other people. People will talk to strangers for a while, build a relationship, and the end outcome is usually when they realize they were talking to someone totally different. I believe people who fall for this are not thinking realistically, they should look for signs to see if the person they are talking to is actually them. A good advice to them might be to video chat, make sure the person they are talking to exists. Although I agree with the essay, I believe that it is now more common for strangers to meet online. On the other hand, not everyone goes on the internet just to talk to strangers. There are also those who have social networking sites to keep in contact only with their friends, co-workers, or just family members. These people only want to keep updated with the people they already know, and therefore, keep strangers away. There are some newer cites, but these issues have actually been going on for a long time. In conclusion, it really depends to the person what type of social life they wish to have. Most people have social networking sites for many different reasons.

Phoebe Kazakos

I have to agree with Chen's argument about how today, social media like Facebook may keep us connected with our friends and how the internet can build different relationship between people and how the majority of people stay on sites, like Facebook, where you are limiting your self to a certain cycle of friends. No outsidd contact from people that may have the same interste that you have.This will slowly lead the next generation (if not already) into becoming more and more antisocial.
However, the fear that was there when the internet first appeared is still here, talking to someone you don't know and that they might be fake and using different identities. I am not saying that all social media is like that, and Chen agrees with that. If people started to move towards other social media, like Reddit or Tweeter, then slowly people will start to enjoy reading what a stranger has to say or has posted a picture and different types of relatioship will be made amount them.
Chen brings up an online Utopia where everyone has a job and get along that will add up to the amount needed to keep the internet running. J.C.R. Licklider makes this ideas known to Chen then to us. Licklider believes that there would always be people trying to control others online, and that be going online, you are telling a small group of people that know you what your thoughts are and feelings.
But rather instead of letting a group of friends hear about what you have to say or how you feel you might not want to go to a social media website where the only people that hear, are people that you close yourself of too.

Jarrett Mattesi

Chen brings up a strong argument about how social media is used today. It seems that every day more and more security is added to social media websites to keep people away from talking to stranger, but wasn't that the point of their existence? Social media was built for people to interact with other people and build relationships. Sure you can be friends with family members and scholars on Facebook, but it does not offer a very strong option when it comes to mingling outside of a person's current friend group.
The popular MTV show, Catfish, just destroys the idea of meeting someone anonymously through the internet. The show is made to entertain people not to portray how all people act on social media. The show is based around people who need constant attention from a significant other who they don't even know. Chen would agree with with me because he also says that the show Catfish ruins the idea of pure online relationships.
Websites like Reddit, endorse the idea of anonymous friendships through posts and comments. It's basically just a internet discussion board for people to interact with other which they don't know. I think Chen would enjoy this website because it brings back the idea that not everybody in the world is a creepy person behind a computer screen, but more of a friendly person just using the same website as all the users.

Lydia Sanders

Since the commenters above all agree with Chen's argument, I would like to shift the conversation by stating how I disagree. Chen argues that anonymous online bonding is good, but is fading because people are scared of pyschos and stalkers who use the internet to prey on innocent people. And what is Chen's evidence for supporting online anonymity? His best friend that he met a long time ago through the internet. To me, one friend does not seem like enough evidence to oppose the countless amounts of cases there have been involving criminals using anonymous social media profiles. I think that our culture is shying away from anonymity for good reason! In a perfect world, Chen's ideal online community might be beneficial to our society, but there are simply too many bad people for it to be safe in reality.


The more a writer points out what their critics say and prove them wrong, the more convincing the writer becomes. You show respect to your readers by doing some research for them and also to the critics by giving them voice in your argument. It makes the reader realize that you might actually know what your're talking about prevents them from feeling clueless or making them feel that they're only getting one side of the story. By planting a naysayer in your text, you are actually supporting your own argument. Not only do you seem more credible as an intelligent individual but also it provides you with something more to talk about or support your claim. There are many ways to frame opposing opinions, as the book shows, and you just have to be careful on what you refer to your critics as. One should take their objectors seriously and explain them in length without mocking your readers because that could distance them from the very point you're trying to make. Placing a naysayer in your writing will also help you, as a writer, to remember what your argument is.


I really connect with Chen's argument leading for me to agree with his argument. As social media expands and the more we use Facebook, Twitter, and Snapchat to connect with people it feel as though it is getting harder to truly know people today. We are interacting with one another through these "mirrors" which we only display ourselves in a certain way to seem appealing to all, the Internet. For you can truly get to know someone just through social media such as Facebook? With Chen's statement "They are not carried out in a delusional swoon, or by trivial status updates." Friendships shouldn't be built upon status updates, tweets, and snaps. We lose the real connection when we interact face to face and see how this person acts in this environment and situation also little things you wouldn't know because of the Internet. Such as if the person is nervous they twist their ring on their finger a lot or can you carry a conversation in person naturally without the use of technology? Important everyday social skills that get lost through Facebook messaging and poking someone because we only dip our toes into the waters of interactions.


I agree with this argument. As everyone is talking on Facebook, Twitter, and Snapchat, it's more and more awkward to talk to them in person. You usually can talk about things over text or social media, but when it comes to being face to face a lot of people find it awkward. Also most people lie over the internet about who they are. This generation is just jacking everything up. More and more people are spending times on their phone and laptops that it's even affecting their education. More and more people and teenagers are caring less. 5th and 6th graders are getting their first phones now, iPhone 6. I hate this cruel and unusual world


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Karla Ortega

I strongly agree with Adrian Chen’s argument that social media is making it easier to make friends while making it harder to maintain friendships. In apps such as Instagram, for example, the more one refreshes their feed the more suggestions of other people they should follow come up. In making it so accessible for people to reach out, people form acquaintances rather than concrete relationships, and conversations are usually shallow. There is no real depth or emotional development through messages, whereas in-person interaction leads to rawer engagement. One gets to know how the other talks, gets upset, nervous, or happy. With social media, it is fairly easy to get caught up on the next big thing, that conversations are started but never finished. Also, it is quite common to manipulate one's image. Social media is what we choose to put out on our pages, and it is not always honest. Whether it be because we are lying about an aspect of our physical appearance, or because we are lying about where we are, who we are, and why. Chen also mentions how social media works as a sort of bubble or home. This has crossed my mind several times, especially when considering how few people question the validity of what they see online. Social media is programmed to put what you love, who you like, and what you talked about right in front of your screen. The more we consume this media, the more personalized our pages become. Soon enough, we block out anything that might go against what we believe in, and once we step foot into the real world, it can be overwhelming. This can work as a contributing factor to catfishing culture. For example, there was a point in which I had made two internet friends named Brenna and Josh, and before I knew it, my phone was filled with videos of different kids meeting the friends they met through social media. These videos had encouraged me to talk to my parents and ask for permission to meet them, but over time we grew apart, and soon my phone was flooded with videos of kids getting catfished or kidnapped. Of course, these terrible outcomes are not always the case, but this topic does require some critical thinking. Chan mentions how sometimes it is hard to feel bad for the people who got fooled, and it is true. The signs can be so obvious at times, but by leading with emotion and no critical thinking, social media friendships can be either harmful or a waste of time. Ultimately though, social media is in fact a broad community to connect with people and engage. The only negative aspect is that these friendships are not always a success.

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